The effects of manipulation are diverse. It can control your thoughts, your behaviours, isolate you from your family and friends, create emotional instability, traumatise the brain to the point you’re repetitively thinking about the manipulation over and over again. Your thoughts don’t run in alignment with what you say.
Your brain begins to use suppression techniques to survive further trauma, it changes the way you see the world.
Manipulative people lack empathy, they are only interested in watching you suffer, they control how others see you, they use normative social influence to destroy others perception of you. You end up feeling out of control and powerless wanting to remain positive.
Trauma survivors are insightful. They seek a world where understanding is prevalent & safety is a priority. Narcissistic injury creates a guilt & shame based perspective that induces suicidal feelings. You begin to gradually decline in your physical and emotional development. You doubt your perceptions. You begin trusting less & less until the damage intensifies and you’re seen as the blame. Survivors are not to blame for the abuse they’ve had to suffer in their lives except more trauma based resources need to be available especially for emotional abuse support groups.
The differentiation between domestic abuse and narcissistic abuse is in narcissistic abuse the perpetrator is usually calm and collected whilst the victim becomes even more ill steadily over a period of time until they have a catastrophic personality change and realise this isn’t right and start acting out at the traumas they’ve experienced as if they’re in the present whilst in domestic abuse it’s more overtly obvious to the medical and psychological community.
Biases are contradictive. Biases are incorrect. Biases are forms of opinionated judgement.
We all haven’t experienced the same experiences except we can conform to the same idea based on another’s intuitive judgement. Status is mostly responsible for this.
We will unintentionally use the availability heuristic to make judgements about people even when not represented with the facts. This is where we need to be careful…
This is where mistakes can arise. This is where integrity can be abandoned and common sense he misjudged.
We must all learn how to make our own judgements and decisions to determine what is right and what is wrong. I find that many people will conform to a professional’s idea or way of thinking even when a person in question is innocent.
Here’s a scenario…
A woman and a man arrange to meet for a coffee. The man admits he would like a divorce and wanted someone to talk to. The man has no intentions but his wife’s friend walks past the coffee shop.
Would you assume this man wants anything else from this woman other than a conversation?
What political or psychological factors do you think are involved in the scenario?
What do you assume?
That is how quickly our judgements can affect our moods and emotions.
What is subtle psychological manipulation?
My personal definition is the process of transferring underhanded tactics to manipulate an individual using majority influence in an attempt to discredit and restrict someone from making their own decisions and deprive them from their basic needs.
Yes I’ve been through this and survived. The damage is long-lasting but it doesn’t mean you can’t get better. Once you’ve been through the process, lost control, doubted your perceptions and lost everything – use your positive mindset to build upon a new foundation, use your experiences to help others and most importantly never give up! Mental health illness can derive from these dangerous tactics used by skilled manipulators. When you conform to their wants and needs you risk losing yourself. You’re better without their judgement, you’re better without them. When you come out of the illusions that traumatised you interpersonally you can build fresh. Love yourself for who you are.