The Borderline & NLP

Borderlines have a very comprehensive view of what they believe to be right from personal experience.

Is Borderline Personality Disorder genetic or environmental? Are there any courses out there that can channel the way borderlines think and process information?

In a crisis it is extremely hard to put across a viewpoint from another’s perspective and borderlines only really present themselves to the psychological services during a crisis when they lose control and start panicking because of the various fluctuation of moods, the suicidal thoughts and the paranoia. Expressing their pain can bring on more stigma within healthcare professions because healthcare providers fail to understand why the borderline just can’t switch off.

There’s a reason for this:

1. Most borderlines have experienced consistent neglect and abuse and attracted themselves to emotionally unavailable people because it’s less suffocating and then have relationship difficulties because of failed emotional response which triggers their primitive brain into overdrive and drives the borderline into a constant state of fear and panic with lack of rationality hence the term emotionally unstable person disorder is used more often for diagnostic purposes. The anger of the borderline during a crisis is usually triggered so in actual fact borderline personality disorder is the borderline between bipolar affective disorder and PTSD which is mostly why the CPTSD term was introduced in Spring of 2018.

Why does it border between PTSD and Bipolar?

  • The anger is unintentional and normally triggered by a reminder of a previous traumatic experience
  • Thoughts can be creative and manic and any stage especially during relationships or extreme psychological distress
  • Borderlines can come across as openly manipulative which is HIGHLY unintentional but they do when they are asking someone to help them or to stop their symptoms, sometimes even to evaluate their experiences when their senses go right out the window.
  • They can become increasingly agitated and hyper vigilant and their brains are often in flight/fight response so if you’re a medical professional and you’re judging someone based on their reactions to a traumatic experience then that’s unfair and unjust because if the borderline didn’t want to feel that way believe me they wouldn’t. People make unrealistic biases based on descriptions of labels without understanding the underlying causes and concepts which of course doesn’t get straight to the root of the issue. I call this the domino effect. For example, let’s say someone has toothache. A dentist will not say it will heal – they will open your mouth and find the cause of the issue and treat the infection. The same integrative therapy must be introduced into psychotherapy to effectively communicate with a borderline. So how will NLP help this? Neurolinguistic programme is a way of introducing positive thoughts as a way of communication – a bit like watching the secret by Rhonda Byrne. Look up NLP courses online and design programmes to assist a borderline during therapy.
  • All borderlines have a talent or skill but it’s up to them to find that skill and create lasting positive effects to their wellbeing and self-esteem through counselling and creative therapies before thrusting themselves into the world of the unknown where anything can happen and because their primitive brains know this they can easily become confused, struggle with comprehensive input although have exceptional knowledgeable output and come across as lacking empathy when borderlines have too much empathy as empathy drives our emotional boundaries. The outdated labels create shame and stigma combined with the overt perception of the illness so why is it called a personality disorder? This is something the medical researchers and higher professionals need to change in order to stop the rising suicidal rates so take the advice from a true borderline. Every borderline has a different personality. We cant all have double personalities!! Some borderlines may also be re-diagnosed as having Unspecified Personality Disorder when their symptoms have stabilised after a crisis and some may have additional CPTSD which can make it difficult to pin an identifiable cause of their symptoms as they could have experienced MULTIPLE interpersonal traumas and long term abuse.
  • Let’s end stigma today and be more positive and proactive in helping another borderline

So now we come to question.. is BPD environmental or genetic?

Its both. It’s both because trauma can have specific effects on the memory consolidation process and the individual themselves which changes the function of the brain and is a flight or fight response to negative environmental factors that trigger their symptoms.

Sometimes we can only be patient, not take things to heart and wait for a borderline to come through their crisis helping them along the way without taking the negative reactions personally .

By TheCreativeBorderline

Creative, Insightful, Intelligent

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