To the partners of the sufferer. I know how hard you try to help your loved one. I know how hard you try and make communication.
The days your loved one curls up in bed not ready to face the day whilst you put food on the table, the rapid mood swings with such emotional intensity that the sufferer feels devalued because they don’t want to feel that way.
They appreciate you. They love you millions. Even if they don’t show it. They are battling their inner demons crying out for help believing things would get better.
They switch goals easily, they’re depressed, they’re irritable but their social media profiles are full of selfies & posts of self-reflection. They’re expressing their pain so creatively.
The borderline doesn’t want to hurt you. They want to feel safe. They want to feel secure. They want to be able to live a happy life although their positive emotions don’t always reflect their inner mood.
The borderline senses danger. Their minds are in constant flight and fight response because their memories have been moulded to fit in with their most painful experiences. Those who have felt the most pain always know how to love because they know what the opposite is.
Opposites attract. Love releases a chemical called oxytocin within the same brain region that affects the borderline.
Trust me when I say this but she loves you.
She loves you with her heart although she let’s go or tries to keep you when she senses a threat. A threat that you will walk away and find someone else but she passionately tries to avoid to cry herself to the point of self-destruction.
Don’t intend to hurt her because the symptoms will magnify.
Love her as you would yourself; (both men & women)
Break down the stigma. He/she is brave. She has a talent. Help her find it ♡