The aftermath of psychological manipulation

What is subtle psychological manipulation? My personal definition is the process of transferring underhanded tactics to manipulate an individual using majority influence in an attempt to discredit and restrict someone from making their own decisions and deprive them from their basic needs. Yes I’ve been through this and survived. The damage is long-lasting but it […]

Nature vs the city

I love London – the architecture, the opportunities available, the people, diverse communities, thousands of years of history: All educational subjects converged together in visual sequence. (That’s the way I look at it) What is exceptionally beautiful about Inverness is the castle, the plane journey over the loch landing on soft tarmac ground – 30,000 […]

What the narcissist will say about you behind the scenes

Have you ever wondered what the narcissist might say about you in your absence?? I’ve had to deal with a lot you know, time will tell – they will mess themselves up. He/She just wants my attention – take no notice I’ve got nothing to hide, I’m innocent They gave me depression She/He didn’t love me, they […]

Borderline Personality Disorder and Relationships

Here’s another post on being in a relationship with a borderline. Borderlines are loving, they like routine and consistency because it balances their moods, thoughts and emotions. They can often seem socially inept but want to socialise without having the necessary interactive skills to because they were so deprived of these skills as children that […]

What is altruism and does it exist?

Altruism is doing good for others without expecting anything in return. Only 1% of the population is altruistic statistically. This is why so many altruistic people are criticised for their warmth, their openness, their values and their heartfelt emotions. It’s not a weakness it’s a sign of strength. I want to do voluntary work for […]

Being open about mental health isn’t attention seeking 💓

In order for others to have their voice heard there needs to be change and there will be change. We need less discrimination in society and more practicicalities to aid individuals with the necessary life skills to be able to do well with their life. Some people want the help and some people don’t. The […]

A Borderline Moment

Mental health professionals do not seem to grasp the concept that people can change and improve their lives no matter if they’ve had a previous diagnosis of borderline personality disorder or not. To listen to them tell me who I am when I know what would work for me is practically throwing myself back in […]

Compartmentalise my being

The elements I hold within myself I compartmentalise into different sectors of society. Anxiety, anxiety, anxiety – how I’m aware it’s in my head, how I’m aware the brain is connected with the body, how I’m aware I’m overthinking the worst scenario. But can we stop it? We can manipulate ourselves to think in a […]

The council estate I once called home 🏠

A flashback to the past, a remberance of what formed my personality as a child, a detailed account of my imperfect indifference. I grew up on a council estate in London. I was my mother’s first child – she was only 16 when I was born except she realised I was advanced in my development. […]

A conflict of values

I’m afraid of lifts but admire the open space I’m afraid of people yet admire sociology and people I’m afraid of my past but admire looking towards the future I’m afraid of inconsistency yet admire new directions I’m afraid of relationships yet want to be loved I’m afraid of being left alone but yet love […]