Sometimes you make mistakes in life and have to realise the lack of respect you lose for yourself by conforming to the people of your past who have previously hurt you… mistakenly falling in love with the same person over and over again is silly right? In fact it’s more than silly; especially when they just either don’t you want to be with someone else or just want one thing and leave you. That’s it. Done. Dusted. Brushed under the carpet. Love doesn’t hurt, loving the wrong person hurts. We have to learn from our mistakes – being alone is far more better than around others who take advantage of you and your compassion and try to hide it because they don’t want to see you with anybody else. Sometimes it’s safer to be alone – doing what you enjoy. You have to protect the love you have in life – you will only ever have so much to give; use love wisely 🙌 🤔 💗✍🏻
Your dialectical mind is shaping your behaviour. You’re every memory, every book, every experience, every person you’ve ever met entwined within the person you are. You’re effortlessly evolving. You’re building upon radical acceptance, you’ve taken accountability for situations that are unjust, you’ve built walls to protect yourself, you’ve allowed yourself to see-saw between the past and the future without focusing on the present in between. You’ve become neurotic. You’ve become situational, you’ve become an emotional component of the environment and your feelings have become numb. You’ve escaped adversity, you’re on a road to adventure, a road to new prospects, a road to a new future, a road where optimism meets fate and you become who you really are 🎭
My mother is an amazing artist and I’d like to share some of her work on my blog to inspire other artists. A goal of mine is to write about each piece of art my mum has created over the years, write about it in detail, with imagery, with personification, with creativity, to explain to my mother how beautiful her art is and the talents she has yet to blossom. My mother is 42, I’m 26. My mum is on her first steps of becoming the talented version of herself and I want to share her art with the world 🌍
A hollow shell, A silent wave
Frothy shores and empty caves
Pick up the shell and listen to the sea
Listen to its calling when it’s calling you to me
Grains of sand and shades of stone
Who knew it would be so peaceful to be so alone.
I know how difficult it is to control, I know the intensity of your reactions, I know the stigma, that others should find reason to be scared of you. What society doesn’t appreciate is the way the brain can create abnormal connections through the neurotransmitters affecting the limbic system which needs specifically targeted treatment. You can get accused of being on illegal drugs. You react to the environmental stigmas when you try to explain the changes in your brain, you alienate and isolate yourself, you begin to become more avoidant, you sit and feel like no one understands. You get constantly criticised for having an illness but your true personality is rejected. We all have to make a contribution to society and it’s not mental health sufferers fault they have a mental health condition but to allow people with mental health conditions to get into work and work effectively treatment is essential or companies waste money on statuory sick pay. I think the government needs to introduce a mental health crisis payment which doesn’t affect businesses and companies but allows the sufferer to get the help that they need and allows them to be automatically signed a mental health key worker who works with them in their own home and with their families. So it’s combining sociology with mental health to be able to deliver change to society, to be able to allow the sufferer to demonstrate their capabilities for work and to be able to be a fully functioning member of society. We want to end austerity. We want to pay less taxes to the benefits system so we need to work together to allow people to recover, allow people to access mindfulness groups on the NHS and choose their own wellbeing plan, to choose the treatments they believe would suit them unless they fully lack capacity in which case a mental health professional would need to make that decision for them.
I love this quote from Benjamin Franklin – another inventor, the inventor of the similarities between static electricity and lightening ✍🏻
He clearly wrote about ideas that he worked hard upon to give us a source of power that we take for granted daily in our every day lives. This quote encourages people and allows people to actually think in depth about their ideas, and then work out how you apply an action to create a product that is beneficial for the generalised population.
Expressing ourselves is essential for our creativity to develop so below I’ve listed ways we can do that improve our writing abilities:
- Think of an object. Create a spider diagram linking words that relate to that object. Include all five senses and emotions when describing that object. Make it as a word count of 300 words.
- Write a short story in third person then revise it and write it in the first person.
- Write about a topic that you feel strongly about and write an opposing piece of literature that argues against that point of view. Find ways to distinguish fact from opinion. Make this a word count of 400 words.
- Do it at your own pace! 💕
Sometimes during periods of stress you lose control of your legs, you are dizzy, you experience brain fog, and you want to sleep constantly – The brain is linked to body pain. Focus on the cognitive model to improve fibromyalgia. The cognitive model suggests that fibromyalgia pain can be intensified if we have stored representations of memory of pain. Do yoga to improve my fibromyalgia and mindfulness meditation. Exercise improves fibromyalgia symptoms because it helps relieve stress. It helps with releasing endorphins in the brain.
Living with physical conditions as well as mental health conditions creates a paradox and doesn’t constitute to positive health so in order to improve your own mental well-being begin to use the cognitive model to identify the causes of your pain how to minimise this in your life.
It’s a biological illness that affects the brain. You struggle with black and white thinking. You struggle to find any grey area in your life. You love with intensity but the problem with borderline personality disorder is when you think and you think and you think you can say things that come across as manipulative even when there’s no intentions to. True manipulation is subtle. True manipulation is not visibly observant by the public eye. You become foolish in your behaviour, overgeneralise your inner anger. Anger derives from wanting to project what you feel is right but in borderline personality disorder you need to look at ways you can see the grey area in between the emotions, see the grey area in our lives. You become so distrustful and avoidant of people because of previous experiences you begin to create, create in isolation. Creative work gives others a sense of fulfilment, a release, a sense of compassion. There needs to be new treatments for borderline personality disorder. Most borderlines are writers, actors, musicians and have learned narcissistic traits because they’re battling with the memories that shaped them. They write about the way they feel because it’s the brain’s way of processing earlier experiences. It’s the brain’s way of communicating inner distress and pain. It’s treatable but not curable and depending on individual circumstances can intensify unexpectedly. They are fragile but strong. They are loving but afraid. They struggle with opposites that masks the grey area in between 💗📝
Since studying my online creative writing course I’d like to share something valuable which has inspired me to integrate creativity with mental health and write to the government to see if we can provide free creative degrees to those with mental health conditions because I honestly believe it would help people identify their own personal needs and what they need help with.
The 4 P’s of creativity are Person, Process, Press, Product. This post is about Person. I’m also using this method for my own wellbeing through my journey.
In creativity ‘Person’ refers to the intelligence of an individual, temperament, habits, attitude, personality, behaviour, self-defence mechanisms, and how we feel about oneself.
So how does this relate to mental health?
Personality: What are your positive traits? What kind of person are you? What do you enjoy that makes up you? Write them down.
Intelligence: Intelligence comes in many different forms. School grades don’t measure intelligence they are generalised. Some people could be extremely practical but lack intellectual ability and some people can be extremely creative but lack social communication skills. Everyone is intelligent in their own way.
Temperament: What makes you angry? What has consumed you? What has preceded with your ability to overthink? What situations do you find yourself in that make you angry and base that on your own personal experience.
Self-defence: How do you react to situations and people that intensify your mental health symptoms? How does this make you feel? What can you do to communicate effectively when trying to establish the care and support that you need?
Behaviour: What do you do that intensifies your behaviour? How can you distinguish your negative behaviours from reality? Write down a list of your behaviours that you want to change.
How do you feel about one-self? Do you have problems identifying your own needs, do you lack energy and have irritability, do you find that stress triggers your symptoms to the extreme. What do you like about yourself? What are your hobbies and interests?
Everyone makes mistakes, I’m not a perfect individual, but I’m inspired to make difference. My traumas have inspired me to use my experiences and use my gift of compassion to deliver new ideas and concepts and not be afraid of adversity because we want change for our children’s future. We want change for stability. We want change. People often criticise themselves for what they’ve done to others that intensifies guilt and it makes us react but we ALL make mistakes – there is no perfect person. But we need to work together to create new ideas to lower mental health rates, I’m leaving the past behind me because I’m doing a lot better on my medication except still have some personal issues to work upon. I’m writing fiction books to express my own inner pain. I’m working on myself because I refuse to allow a mental health ‘label’ define me as a person. I refuse to allow others to define me based on their own thoughts and their own actions. I’m just removing myself from the negative and building a positive future for myself and want others to know it’s not too late to build something new within yourself. 💕
You feel like the world wants to diminish your creativity but criticise your depression when you ask for help when needed and the way your personal experiences have consumed you you exhaust all efforts in trying to identify the triggers but trauma based CBT and medication is useful in this instance. You can also print off self help books in the meantime to help yourself. You don’t have to feel alone in isolation creating new ideas and concepts. Don’t be afraid to be wrong and change that idea if it’s wrong. Do not be afraid to go back on a pre-existing idea and change the outcome. I’ve personally combined the 4 P’s of creativity and related that to mental health so I can form new innovations and projects to help myself and others in the future. I’ve always been a writer, that will never change. I don’t want to change who I am as a person, I want to be able to express my ideas and create new reformations for better change as the mental health rates are rising and rather than society seeing mental health as the issue we need the practicalities in place to be able to change that. I think the most appropriate job for me once I’ve worked on my own self-development is in the creative sector because I can expand on my current ideas and experiences and create new projects that will help others in delivering their full potential. Without creativity we wouldn’t have revolutions in science, without creativity we wouldn’t have DBT and cognitive based therapies. Creativity is not a curse, it’s a beautiful power to have openness to experience and the ability to use oneself and their experiences for innovation. This is me being myself so why should I apologise for being myself. Why should you apologise for wanting to write in isolation where your ideas are more prevalent in the middle of the night? This is you and be proud to be you. If anyone needs any help with any online content in a creative format then let me know and I’ll formalise plans and see what I can do for you. 💗💗